Siblings who have special needs

Take a look at these books for siblings of children with special needs -

for younger kids, try this by Don Meyer:

by the same author, for the slightly older child:

And finally a great book written by teens themselves with Don Meyer's help, the Sibling Slam book.  Some of the comments in this book are very direct, you may want to look at it first, before handing it on to your teen.

Finally,  for parents trying to take in all perspectives try this book by Kate Strohm: